I know I'm jumping a bit ahead of where you are, but my
daughter is 10 years old, born with a severe bilateral lip and
palate. To let you know how this looked if you haven't seen any
pictures, she had two slits going up both sides into her
nostrils, her gum that contained her two front teeth touched her
nose with a tiny piece of lip on it. She had no roof to her
mouth, only the bone going down the middle--nothing in the back
(soft palate). She was our first and a complete SHOCK. The good
news... she has had four surgeries for her cleft, has had
numerous orthodontic work done and she looks wonderful !!!!! She
has no speech problem whatsoever, never any speech therapy. Some
people who don't know her asks if she fell and split her lip.
Although she has a way to go, she may want to have cosmetic
surgery for her scars and to revise her nose, she is a very well
adjusted child who accepts who she is and how she looks with no
questions. We have had a philosophy since she was born, treat her
like any other child--because being our first we didn't know any
different way!!! We have a 6 year old daughter who does not have
a cleft. I could go on and on, just wanted to let you know that
it will be okay--really. One day at a time.
You're asking the same questions and having the same feelings
that I did, I just wanted to know that it was going to be okay,
and it is. So if we're not too far ahead in age for you, feel
free to e-mail me with any questions.
Nena.
ngile@yahoo.com