I am so glad I found this forum! My son, Carter was born with a bilateral cleft lip and complete cleft palate. His lip surgery was performed one week ago. We were in the hospital for two nights since he was not eating well. When we did finally come home he still cried every time I tried to feed him. He was taking about 6 ounces total per day! Awful
Sunday (the day before his stitches were due to be removed) he bumped his nose and the incision on that side came loose. Due to him having a bilateral cleft, it was very tight on either side of his nose/lips. We rushed him to the ER but because it was a Sunday, there seemed to be no one there who had a clue. On top of that, his plastic surgeon was and still is out of town till July 31! So the people at the ER basically told me that they felt uncomfortable working on a baby his age and to just wait till my appnt the next morning
Monday we took him in to have the stitches removed. The nurse said that it was okay (it did not look okay to me), and that the scar on the one side just may be a bit wider and they could go in and adjust that later. Okay! When I told her how little he was eating she said I really needed to get him fed. She helped me feed him-and told me that basically, even if he's screaming, I need to pump that milk in. So since that time feeding (I'm getting 3 ounces in every three hours) has been awful. I feel like it's traumatic for him. He screams the entire time and seems to absolutely hate being fed. However, he is in a better mood in between feedings so I guess this is okay? Does this sound at all familiar to anyone??? I just want to know that he will go back to enjoying feeding and that I am not scarring him for life!!!
Anyway-the break in the incision on the one side is getting progressively worse. Although it is covered with tape, I can still see air bubbles when I feed him. His lip itself looks fine-the break is actually more near the nose so his nose looks crooked!!!
I called again today and was told that I need to bring him in first thing on the 31st (that's when his plastic surgeon is back in town). Well that is FIVE days away!!!!
Needless to say this week has been awful and I am basically a basket case His plastic surgeon supposedly is one of the best in the nation and has performed countless cleft surgeries. I hear constantly everywhere I go how great he is. So why is this happening? Is this a common occurrence? What will they do to fix it?
The feeding issue is so hard too. I just feel like all I do is traumatize him every time I feed him. Please SOMEONE tell me this is normal? If I know that others have had this problem and that it's just part of recovery...that it DOES go away, then I'll be fine. I just can't seem to find any information on it-or anyone who has been through this situation.
My poor baby-I just want him to be happy again