I am 28 and was born with both cleft lip and cleft palate. I am also the oldest of four siblings, and none of them had near as serious problems. A *very ,very* small case of spina bifida in one (you never would guess it though... nothing that prevented everyday things or her amateur running hobby
), another had jaundice (only needed her first few weeks of life in sunlight), and my brother had some form of speech problem, nothing cleft related, but that was corrected with speech classes.
If you remain concerned, go visit a genetic counselor
Good luck in your decision!
Kim,
The Cleft Club <a href="http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/thecleftclub">http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/thecleftclub</a>