Name: raviv Lerner
Country: Israel
City: nahariya
Address: hacarmel street 24/6
Zip: 22209
! Organization Shalom
I wish to sheer with you a no experience that happened to me
in my childish
And the reason is Of course that I born with deformity, as
you know that called:
Cleft Lip and Pallet
All this story happened when my mother that before have birth
me went to do an
Ultrasound and then it have been told here that she have a
baby with deformity
That called: cleft lip and pallet and than she didnt
believe and she didnt know
What to do and she told me that she cried allot and when she
told the family my
They all were surprise and they have a shock, and than my
grandfather
Told her:
For what do you need this baby? Do a abortion (kill him). And
after thinking
And decision with my father they made a decision that was to
go with this
Situation and birth me. And when I have been went to the New
World
She was at first very surprise and she was thinking what a
beautiful baby she
Have. Than she was thinking as other perents in your story,
and when I
Have been in my first time to the world all the troubles with
me just have been
Started. My first surgery operation was in 4-6 months, in my
lip and than I have
Been a trouble with my food, because all my food was going
threw my nose and
For that in the hospital put in my mouth a plata plastic and
that I remember
Because I didnt like it and I cried allot.
And after that Ive made more about 4-5 surgery
operations, and of curse I
Were had been more problems because my deformity which they
was:
In my ear, speech and language, nose, when I remember that in
my ear
I made a surgery to remove the both tubules in the both ear
which was
Necessary and because of that it made a damage in my left
haring ear and
Than I needed to the haring appliance to my left ear.
And when I was in the kindergarten and at school it was very
difficult to me
Because the kinds didnt wanted to play with me and they
were talk about me
A jokes because my speech and language that didnt was
fine actually it was very
Badly. And they didnt understanding what I have been
told to them.
And they also have been seen my scar, and at guneurschool it
was worst because
They also were lafing at me, and which I love to play
basketball they didnt
Wanted to play with me. And they were throwing on me a cone
from the
Trees and I were had been safer at juneurschool until I was
15 years old.
And in the years Ive made a surgery in my pallet
because when I was drinking
Water they were going out throws my nose because I had a hole
in my jaw
And I were suffered from it a loot, when I was in hightschool
and did trying
To make a communicate with girls which it was at 17 years old
and than
The girls were funny about me and they were talking that I am
very ugly and
I dont find any girls in my situation and than my
confidence was going down
And it was infected in my live allot. And then I stopped to
talk with other
Boys and girls because they hit me allot.
And when I was 18 years old I had also a problem in the army
because they
Didnt want to take me to the army at any way because I
suffered from
A sub-weight and also today I suffered from it and I very
thin and people don't
Believe to me that I am 22 years old, today I am 45 kg and 22
years old I very
Tall 1.78 meter and even more.
And after 3 years of fighting them they took me to the army
at 21 years old
With low profile witch is 45 and than I suffered agen from
the army:
They send me to a base with loot of noise and my haring agen
was going
Dawn which now is: left ear: 20% and right ear: 30% and now I
need
For 2 haring appliances which the army don't want to pay it,
and nesen
The surgery of bonegraft they dont want to pay which I
suffered from it
A lot because I have all the time a catarrh and I have a
difficult in my birth.
Well, why does my live are so cruel? And why it happened to
me?
And the big question is if I get marred is it will happened
to my child in the
Same way? And he will have a cleft lip and pallet?
And if will be happen I will tell to my wife that she will
not need to scerd and
I will support her any time that she needed and I will advice
to her that she
Need to give him a life and not kill him! Because he not
guilty!
And I also support him and help him to get accept it and gud
wanted that
He will have cleft lip and pallet and my answer will be that
. He is very special kid and
He better from the others kids and I will go with him and
Shaw him other
Kids that have a cleft lip/pallet and tell him that nobody is
perfect!
And I have a special request: I wold like that you will be
connect to me with
The family kids of those who were born with cleft lip and
pallet and that I
Will talk with them, and they will be tell me how did they
make to handle
With this hard very situation
And I also ask from you to send them evryising that I have
been rotten because
I want that they will know that even in countries like Israel
there are children
That born with cleft lip and pallet and give them my full
congressional and wish
Them luck from all my hart of continue of take caring there
children and
Strong them and tell them that they are not alone and if they
wold like to
Meet with me or sending to me a letters they can do it and so
am I and in
The letters we can share an information of how it was with
their children
And send a picture and they will can advice to me what should
I do if I will
Have a baby with cleft lip and Pallet and so on . . .
Raviv Lerner