Hi Everyone
Firstly, thanks again to Jacqui and Scardycat1 for their further replies which have been very helpful.
We saw the third team on Friday, here's a summary of their stance - I hope there's nothing in here that worries others if it's different from whatthey have been told, I'm just trying to let you know what they are telling us so you have as much info to hand as possible (which is what we've struggled to achieve!):
o Operation at 6 months - this is a combination of safest age/size for the anaesthetic, baby on solids, palate fixed before speech sounds start
o They believe waiting 12-18 months for soft palate repairs is outdated - this follows some French specialist's methods. They believe that the US and Canada are lagging behind Europe and that 12-18 month waits now are inappropriate
o The operation makes no incision into the hard palate at all - they believe this prevents any additional problem with jaw development
o Their follow-up operation rate is only 2.4%
o They are quietly confident that speech therapy wouldn't be required
o Grommets (ear tubes) are not always required and are only done if the ENTs specialist believes it to be necessary. Again though, this would be tied in with the main operation for simplicity.
o They believe there is no orthodontal problem associated with soft palate problems, just normal kids problems that are not related (we've found it very difficult distinguishing between what's related to the palate problem and what's just a "normal" problem for kids sometimes)
o They would only keep her in for 1 or 2 days after operating, then let her home. We clarified this position with team 2 who had told us 5 days in hospital - they said they will only let us go once correct feeding is re-established, which sounds more sensible.
o No arm splints required as baby won't be able to reach the stitches with her fingers, plus it would hurt too much for her to pull on them. We would have to be a bit careful she didn't stick anything hard and long into her mouth though
o There are no neurosurgeons in the UK teams as they are not required for palate problems - this is a US/Canada thing where the palate teams are combined with craniofacial teams for which this is necessary.
So where has this left us? Actually, teams 2 and 3 are very similar, and we have found out that they both follow what they consider the "new" style of operation repair, ie. 6 months and no incisions into the hard palate. We have also found out that both surgeons are considered the top 2 palate surgeons in the UK, which is also reassuring. Team 1 is not an option for us, we have also found out that they are going to be disbanded, basically because they are not up to the job (great).
Our advice to anyone in the UK (and anywhere else for that matter) is to ask questions incessantly - don't be afraid to ask for more and more detail, as you get a better understanding of what's involved so you will need more information from them. You effectively have 5 or 6 months to make your decision, so don't feel pressurised into going with the first team you see. Most importantly of all, fight to get as many referrals as possible - unbelievably we had to fight with our GP to get the 3rd referral (we said we would go privately if he wouldn't refer us, however the hospital teams don't do anything differently for private patients and give any fees to charity) - the hospital were appalled at this so I forwarded their message of disgust to my GP who quickly changed his mind about the referral!
UK people, I can't stress enough that you need to get the right advice... if anyone would like more info then feel free to contact me at sladeeee@my-deja.com. Otherwise you need to speak to CLAPA directly (their number is on their website at www.clapa.com).
Cheers
-Mark.