by Kelly » Fri Jan 14, 2000 6:28 pm
I don't know if you can call us an outcome yet, maybe we are still a "work in progress" but so far life has been pretty good. My daughter was born 9 years ago with a bilateral complete cleft of the lip and palate. We lost my father-in-law to cancer the same day my daughter was born. I can be honest and say I wasn't very optimistic in the beginning. I was only 19 years old and had never even seen a cleft. Katie (my daughter) had her first surgery at 3 months, a second at nine months and many more to follow. I will not lie and tell you it was easy....it's the hardest thing I have had to do to this day. But I strongly believe God only gives us what we can handle. If you can think of it like this, I think it helps. Instead of thinking about how this happened to you, think about the fact that people everyday have children with no birth defects. Just about anyone can do it......but only a handful are chosen to recieve a "special child". Katie has had some teasing, but really not much. We live in a small town and everyone is very supportive. When she has a surgery, just about the whole town knows, and helps out in anyway possible. I have always had Katie out there with all the "normal" kids. I think that is the most important thing...to treat these kids as normal as possible. I am sure there will be bumps along our journey, but so far those little bumps have made Katie a pretty awesome person. She has a great personlality and love enough for the whole world, even the people who sometimes stare. She always tells me "mom they are just wondering how I got such a pretty lip" Just keep looking for the bright side and I am certain you will find it and in the process your grandchild will learn to look for the possitive. Katie and I wish you the best of luck.