Dear Anne: I know that you do not know me, but I like you was born with a cleft lip & palate. The way that I got mine was by my mother being a alcholic for years before I was born. While she was pregant with me, she was drunk each day and finaly one day, she fell down the basement stairs and ended up in a coma,paralize & with brain damage. When I grew up, I had 5 children and I have 2 grandchildren and not a one of them has my defect. So from my experience ask a doctor first to see if you would have the possibility of having a child with this birth defect. And if he or she saids no than go for it. I personally never had that cross my mind when I had my children. I hope that this helps you out alot.
I would like to know if that is alright with you what you decided. Here is my name Anne H my e-mail is
thorne@buckeye-express.comalso my mother was 40 yrs. old when she had me. My sisters,brother,neices,or nephews and great nephews and neices were not born with this defect either. I hope that this helps you out in some way.