whew, i have so many things to be happy about being borned with a cleft but even till today, i'm still wanting more. I know in my heart that i can never be able to be the man i want to be. somedays it's good, somedays it's harder. i'm 38 with 3 beautiful children. I'm divorce though. i think back and tell myself i blew it. i had a beatiful wife and beautiful children. My insecurites about myself threw all of that out the window. i got back into my old habits and started doing drugs again. i felt i needed somekind of substance to fill the void in my heart even thoug i had everything a man could wish for. i did't know it back then but i know it now. i'm my worst enemy and sometimes, i can't help myself. You know, considering the way i was born? I had many relationships with women. and still, i don't feel fortunate. i realize that i have to beat this demon in me. i can never be happy, or make others happy with whom i am in a relationship with until the day i can make myself happy. with all of this knowledge, i still have bad days. if you ask me, i'm pretty mixed up. hahaha, i have good things to say or feel but contridict myself with bad or negative thoughts. i was reading through this discusion list and i read something like this ... "the more i make myself beautiful, through surgeries, the more i want to be more beautiful". i think i'm going through something like that. After years of heavy drug use, and through many women, i finally came clean. although i had to do some time, i did it. i felt so good back then. i walked proud. i started to take care of my health and started a heavy weight lifting program. today, i get complimated on my physique but with that, seems like i want more. hahaha, life is so tough! for me and others that is. the more you feel good about yourself, with being born with a cleft, the more you want to be with a cleft ... you know? thanks for listening !
a troubled, but fortunate man ...