by Alayna Cobb, Kansas » Wed May 01, 2002 7:32 pm
I too am a single mother. I am 23 years old. Yes, it has been hard,...but I lucked out in getting to move back home with my parents. My daughter, Ashlie, is 19 months old now, and she is the ABSOLUTE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!!!! We are SOOOO tight. When I think about how MUCH i love her, it brings tears to my eyes. I can't explain it. Actually, this may sound backwards,...but I think that being a single parent has actually brought my child and i closer together. who was there to put her to bed?,...me,....who was there EVERY time she needed something?,...me,...who was there at every one of her surgeries?,...me,...who took care of her and comforted her after surgery?,...me,.......well, you get the point. you have more opportunities to do things that mean something to these children since you are the only one there. I am in a situation right now where i am starting to date again,...and i am having a problem with it, because i don't want to share her. she has been "mine" for 19 months, and I'm not ready to have someone else there telling me what to do with her. I have been the one to make all of the decisions and have all of the say for 19 months, so i am REALLY struggling with this. Anyway, I think that your child will really respect you for being a single parent and making it through all of this. this is not easy. i recently came to the conclusion that I NEED MY DAUGHTER MORE THAN SHE NEEDS ME. That's what happens when you only have eachother to rely on. anyway, hang in there, you'll make it, and if you need anything let me know. I just started a support group a couple of months ago, please check it out. Our story is posted there, and everything there we have done alone. the support group is called Changing Faces, and the site is <a href="http://www.araweb.org/faces">http://www.araweb.org/faces</a>
Alayna, 23, Kansas
Mommy to an Angel in Heaven (3-13-99)
Mommy to Ashlie, 19 months, bclp
God may not Prevent the calamity,...but He gives us the Strength and Perserverance to Overcome it!!
Life may be tough,..........BUT I'M TOUGHER !!!