I am 24 years old. I've had corrective surgery once but unfortunately there remained a fistula. Since then I've no type of corrective surgery. I can say that I have managed to live with the way in which I was born and maybe on some occasions have actually forgotten that I have such a abnormality. But there is someone who will always remind you that you are not normal most times it has been by those who do not know that there is such a birth defect.
What has bothered me for some time now is that there is a very good chance that this birth defect can be passed on to your children. I am still single and not involved in a relationship either. But I keep wondering if I do get into a relationship and things do become serious whether telling that person that our children could be affected with a Craniofacial anomaly would cause an end to that relationship. The other is the feeling of guilt that you have caused your children to go through life with something you wish you were never born with. Knowing that maybe if you had not wished to have kids, this situation would not have arisen. The problem is that I do wish to have a lovely family someday. Please could someone who had faced such a dilemma tell me how you dealt with it.